It is a common thing to believe that, “before you love someone you have to know yourself.” People are told this when they’re young, but just old enough to experience love. Not only do I think this is complete bullshit, but it’s the complete opposite of what you should believe.
You cannot get to know yourself fully when you’re alone. When you’re alone you only know yourself in alone situations. When you’re loving someone, you learn about yourself in situations involving that someone you love, you learn what your heart will go through till it’s too much, you learn what you’ll do to keep your relationship, what you can withstand and what you can’t.
In a relationship, you grow together. You build each other up and discover how your pros and cons can fit together like puzzle pieces. So you’ll learn your pros and cons from someone else, they’ll assist you in being your best and you’ll assist them.
Most of all you’ll learn what you cannot do, and who you cannot be with. This is so important in knowing yourself. In a relationship you’ll learn what YOU want. It will give you insight to how you’d like your future.
You can love someone at any age, whether you know yourself or not. It’s a foolish rule to know yourself first, because truly there is no way to fully know yourself. You’ll love yourself more when you learn why someone else loves you, for reasons you’ve never known and you’ve never imagined.
Everyday a million new opportunities come, new situations where you will learn how you react, and learn more about yourself. Your mind is endless, and there’s no way to grasp everything you know about yourself in this short time frame that we call life. So, love, and learn.